Women Try Too Hard

Especially some of my Afr. American women. I go on Facebook and see some of the profile pics and think to myself  "wow". It amazes me how far some of us are willing to go just to get a little bit of attention from the opposite sex. AND it angers me beyond any belief. These are the SAME women that complain that there are NO good men. But take a hard, good look at yourselves ladies. If you post a profile pic on a social network with 90% of your breasts hanging out, have two middle fingers up, tattoos on places that should be kept private (at least most of the time), and/or wearing tight mini dresses or skirts, then odds are you are not going to attract somebody who has it together. You WILL attract losers and wanna be thugs. Period. Potential baby daddy, high school/college drop out, weed smokin', no ambition havin', no good job or can't keep a job, ignorant man. But that's what some of you women ultimately attract with your behavior and the images that you put out of yourselves. And because he likes your body (even though he may spit some other reasons in there to make you believe that he's "for real"), you think it's the right kind of affection that you crave or worse, you think it's "love". THEN next thing you know, you allow him to get you pregnant. He's out of the picture of course. All for what? Just to get a man?

Don't you EVER tell me that there are no good men out here, because some of you ladies fail to protect yourselves against choosing the wrong kind of man to procreate with. I've had enough. Stop blaming the men. It is YOUR fault. And for some of you, stop throwing yourselves out there any kind of way on social websites. It's getting on my nerves. I wish you knew how beautiful you all were already without the "extra effort". I'm totally speaking from experience here. I once thought that dressing and acting provocative was the best way to get attention and lasting affection from the opposite sex. But I only did that because I had low self-esteem, and it took loving friends to boldly tell me that I was a hot mess inside and out (to put into lesser words). I got into relationships that were unhealthy, counter-productive, and that didn't increase my self-esteem. In fact, my self-esteem got WORSE because of how desperate I felt and that I saw myself of not being good enough or having any value. It took a while for me to realize the obvious; self-esteem does not come from male admiration, but it comes from the admiration of yourself! If you put yourself out there as a loser, then odds are you are going to attract losers into your life. Like minded people hang around each other. If you don't want to be associated as just any play thing, then don't put yourself out there as one.

It's a little embarrassing talking about my past experiences but I don't want to sound like I'm preaching. I'd rather be someone who sounds like I know what I'm talking about because I have evidence from my life. I've always wanted people to not only tell me what the right path is, but to also tell me why from their own life experiences.  I don't care about looking like an angel, because I wasn't and I'm still not. I understand that we all have issues. But if there's something that can be fixed, why not try to fix it?

Bottom line, I want you ladies to stop trying too hard to attract a man. Just be beautiful. Be the whole package. Once you got that down, then you'll be among the extraordinary. You'll learn to respect yourself more and would want to. Your self-esteem would rise higher than you thought it would and people would notice. You wont crave or tolerate stupid, childish, and ignorant men to one day father your innocent young children. You are all goddesses and should carry yourselves as such.

Just be you.