There is No Other Man...

Often times as women (including myself), we fantasize about marrying the perfect man for us and we get jealous over other women/men that have already achieved that goal. We were conditioned from an early age by media, family, and society at large that a woman who receives a wedding proposal and a sparkly (if that's a word) ring has obtained the ultimate prizes sought after---or the highest gifts that a woman could/would ever receive. Subconsciously, we've been trained to think that our worth is based upon whether or not we're marriage material or if a man would want to marry us. Like so many other women, I fell victim to this way of thinking and continue to struggle with it everyday.

BUT one thing that my mind has been dwelling back and forth on for a couple of weeks now is that we are already desired, wanted, appreciated, and loved whether or not someone else thinks so or otherwise. We are already prizes that have been sought after and purchased; not by any ordinary human being but by God who sacrificed his son, Jesus (Yeshua). Yeah, yeah. I know what you're thinking:

"Jesus loves everybody. That's a given. But I still feel lonely/longing for a mate. I'm human and I still have these desires. God is...well...God. Can he really relate to me like that? How is knowing that God loves me going to change the fact that I still want to be someone's wife?/share my life with someone?"

I'm glad you asked. I still have those questions myself. However, the best answer that I can come up with right now is that 1) Yes, we are human and unfortunately the desire to be a life-long companion to someone will never go away (especially if it has been placed there naturally). 2) Yes, God can relate to us all. He may be infinitely bigger than all of us but He also came to us as a man who experienced temptations 3) Knowing that God loves us eternally means that God knows the desires of our heart. If we patiently wait for His timing instead of our timing, he will personally hand-pick a potential mate for you. The key here is PATIENCE. But of course, I learned the hard way through previous relationships that were truly only based on sex and putting my happiness/emotional security into the hands of a human being. In one relationship, I even chose someone who showed ALL the signs of potentially being physically and emotionally abusive. I became desperate enough to want to settle, even if he wasn't God's best for me because I didn't want to feel alone, lonely, not good enough, unworthy, not prized, unloved, not cherished by someone. If anybody has been there before, I completely understand which is why I'm sharing this with anybody who is struggling with the lifestyle or at least the thought of being single and choosing to re-dedicate your life to God and a sexually pure lifestyle.

The truth is,1) we're not alone because God is ALWAYS with us whether it feels like He is or not. 2) Loneliness is a state of mind 3)We ARE good enough because we were good enough for God to sacrificed His son Jesus so that He can have an intimate relationship with us. 4) We ARE worthy because (see #3). 5)We're prized because Jesus bought us with His blood and His life so that we could be Daughters/Princesses/Queens under The Most High. 6) And because of #5, we will always and forever be loved and cherished. The point that I'm ultimately trying to make here is, there is no other man or being that can love you like God loves you. There is no amount of physical hugs, passionate kisses, caresses,  touches, sex, amazing dates, money, fancy cars, nice clothes, or a nice body that a man could have that will be able to replace the infinite and uncomprehendable, unconditional, love that God has for you (and me). The Being that loves us is the creator of the multiverse and other dimensions beyond our imagination. He is the author to the book of our fragile lives and our very existence on this small planet, and other planets, solar systems, galaxies, universes, and so forth, and so forth. He is the creator to everything that has ever existed and will exist.  Everything starts, continues, and never ends with Him. He KNEW US eons, and eons, and eons, and eons, and eons (according to our time measurements) before we came into fruition. And yet, God loves us so much. In fact, quite honestly, I feel that His kind of love is too good to be true. I personally, can't understand it or wrap my brain around it completely. It's impossible for me to. Thus how can any other man compete with God's love, acceptance, and admiration for me? What anybody else has to give is completely insignificant.