Can I be perfectly honest? I'm tired of seeing men and women in the street who are CLEARLY past their physical, youthful days trying to compete with the younger generation of girls/boys/men/women. I see women in their late 40s to early 50s, even some in their 60s, wearing mini skirts and tight shirts, showing off their mid section; trying to dress like someone who has just hit puberty. And desperately (at least it seems like) trying to maintain what they perceive is "youthfulness" or hot/sexy. I can see that they're likely more concerned with trying to arouse the nearest man rather than be an active role model, grandmother, mother figure, educator, or mentor.
I also see men, in which probably half of them need canes, try to walk up to me and other women, cat calling and flirting. These men are in their 50s and 60s, still trying to chase the nearest hour glass figure or biggest butt. Even if the girl is underage. Sadly in many cases, they have children and grandchildren of their own. But they are too comfortable preying and chasing women who are half their age like dogs in a continuous, eternal cycle of estrus.
In addition, the media is putting a heavier spotlight where school teachers who are having sexual relations with their students. These instructors (male and female) are as old as in there 40s and the students as young as 13.
This is beginning to be a little too much...
We already live in a overly sexualized society where literally almost everything is about sex. It is entrenched in our culture and it is so deep, that it seems to be the only way to think, express, and to live. Sex itself, is not the issue. It is the lack of boundaries that become the issue, ESPECIALLY in the black community. Right now, we have a generation of young people who are confused and hungry for guidance that most of the older people in our community are not providing (based off of my own observations). Staying "young, wild, and free" is the definition of this new era where both the young and the old are striving to be and to stay.
But with age, wisdom is supposed to be acquired. How old do you have to be to know that acquiring assets and building wealth is more important than "turning up" every weekend? How long does it take to realize that eventually, your body will break down and the only thing that matters is who you are as a person and the legacy that you leave? How much life experience does it take to know that a woman is not a "bitch", a man is not a "nigga", and not every young person's vagina/penis is supposed to be dipped and dabbed by you???
Excuse me for being a little sensitive about this topic, but we ARE in desperate need of a communal hierarchy. Elders are at the top, young people are at the bottom. But the two should collaborate, set strict boundaries, yet respect each other. To be an elder means to be a person of high regard and respect. To be an elder means to give social, spiritual, emotional, and economic guidance and support within the community. Since elders have lived more of life and experienced more of life, they deserve the role of being the communal leaders. But you can't be a leader and try to compete with those who obviously are in need of guidance, i.e the youth.
Let's stop trying to be like the adolescent kids and more like those who can be leaders and positive role models. It is a powerful thing to be considered an influence. It takes a village to produce a strong community. But if the village is corrupt, what kind of generation will be produced next?
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